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How do you tighten up the pump discharge union nut or collars? Is there a special wrench or tool to get behind the various interferences? Do I have to design, build, and market my own wrench?
You are correct in that you should not use a pipe wrench on these fittings, and certainly very little force is recommended. (You think access is bad to turn the threaded union, try replacing it after its been broken.)